Most Important Health Areas For Developing Children

It’s no secret that the early childhood stage is a critical period for a person’s development. During that time, it’s your job as a parent to ensure they have everything they need to grow into a healthy person. Unfortunately, focusing on one health area won’t be enough. It’s not enough to feed them good food and take care of their nutrition.

There are many other important health areas for developing children, and knowing these can help parents focus their limited time and energy on the things that matter most. On that note, here’s a closer look at the most important health areas for developing children:

  • Dental Health

One of the most common diseases among children in many countries is cavities. If left untreated, it can cause a great deal of pain to your kids, and may even result in infections. In the worst-case scenario, these infections may lead to problems with their daily routine, such as eating, playing, and speaking. That’s one of the reasons why oral health is considered a window to a person’s overall health. Thus, it’s important to deal with your children’s dental health as early as possible.

You can do so by simply encouraging them to brush their teeth at least twice a day. But if they’re already in their late childhood and they haven’t practiced proper brushing up until now, it might be worth taking them to a dentist for a thorough checkup.

Furthermore, if their dental health requires treatments, you might want to consider sending them to a Pediatric Laser Dentistry practitioner for some quick fix.

  • Proper Hygiene

Hygiene is important to everyone. However, maintaining proper hygiene is especially necessary for children, and there are many reasons why. For starters, children have fewer antibodies than adults. Since their immune system is a bit weaker, proper hygiene practices such as hand washing and bathing can go a long way in preventing diseases. These can help ward off harmful microorganisms like germs and bacteria. Much like dental health, there are several things you can do to help your kids practice proper hygiene, such as:

  • Help them shower every day
  • Encourage your children to wash their hands before and after meals and even snacks
  • Always prepare clean clothes for your kids
  • Teach them to turn away when they or someone else is coughing or sneezing
  • Healthy Habits

As simple as they may be, daily habits can make the difference between a healthy and an unhealthy person. While your children are still young, it’s important to teach them the importance of healthy habits. Here are some examples:

  • Avoid spending too much time staring at the screen of electronic devices
  • Take a break every once in a while
  • Drink plenty of water

They might not seem as important as dental health or hygiene, but these little things can go a long way in improving your children’s health as they can prevent potential minor diseases.

  • Immunization

Immunization is the simple process of applying vaccines to children. For obvious reasons, this process is a very important health area for your developing kids, especially since immunization can prevent common diseases among children, such as:

  • Strep throat
  • Pink eye
  • Flu
  • Chickenpox

 Moreover, immunization not only prevents diseases but also improves your children’s well-being. If you think about it, most vaccines are free, but if your children suffer from diseases due to being unvaccinated, that would cost you a lot of money.

Immunization is not just important for your children, it’s also a crucial step to eradicating certain diseases. In fact, many diseases have now been eliminated or are already rare because of immunization programs. This broader perspective should give you another motivation to have your kids immunized. Beyond decreasing your children’s susceptibility to diseases, you’re also helping improve public health.

  • Physical Activity

Children also need physical activity to maintain their cardiovascular system’s health. Engaging in physical activity may also increase their white blood cells, which help eliminate viral infections. However, encouraging kids to exercise on their own isn’t very effective.

If you want to take care of this particular health area, you should consider scheduling family workout sessions. Exercising as a group tends to be more effective at encouraging children to do physical activities. Examples of family exercises you can do with your kids include:

  • Bike riding
  • Sports
  • Hiking
  • Camping

As active as your kids are, their bodies still have their limits. So, while physical activity is indeed important, remember to allow appropriate time for rest. Also, pairing up exercise with healthy eating—yet another important health area for developing children—will yield the best results for their overall health.

  • Healthy Eating

Healthy eating involves the consumption of all nutrients your child needs, be it from fruits, vegetables, meat, or even supplements if they can’t absorb nutrients properly. For your reference, here’s a list of nine of the most important nutrients for children:

  1. Proteins
  2. Carbohydrates
  3. Fats
  4. Iron
  5. Folate
  6. Calcium
  7. Fiber
  8. Vitamin C
  9. Vitamin A

It’s also worth noting that breakfast is the most important meal, so don’t forget to go all out on your kids’ breakfast. As a matter of fact, a study by National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI) shows that children who regularly have breakfast have a better academic performance than those who don’t.

Furthermore, remember that kids often become a bit of a glutton after school, so you might want to consider preparing snacks for them when they get home. Take note that there are a few foods that you need to avoid as they may do more harm than good, especially to your children’s teeth.

Final Words

As a parent, it brings you joy to see your kids grow up as you wanted them to. But it’s inevitable to face some challenges along the way. Seeing your children get sick is one of the most difficult experiences for parents. Focusing on the most important health areas of developing children will help you prevent most minor illnesses and other health issues in the future. On that note, this guide should help you figure out which health areas to prioritize for your developing kids.

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These Are My Earth Day Book Picks for April 22nd

If you know me, you know I love books. Earth day is coming up. on April 22nd.  I enjoy sharing books with my kids. Check out my picks for this Earth Day and any day. These books are full of information about plants, trees, fungi and ways kids can keep the planet clean and healthy.

Check out my book  list below and watch the video for an in-depth look into the titles I have chosen.

Mommy Ramblings’ Earth Day Book Picks:

  1. Kids Fight Plastic
  2. Bruno The Beekeeper
  3. Zee Grows A Tree
  4. A World of Plants 
  5. Creature Features Oceans
  6. Fungiarium 


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Areas of Your Home to Check Regularly

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When you invest money in buying a home, you obviously want to look after that investment. This means taking steps to ensure the property stays in good condition and making sure that any damage is repaired and dealt with as quickly as possible. It is important to remember that some areas of your home can pose more of a threat to the condition of your home than others, so you should spend some time checking home health by focusing on these areas.

By taking the time to check your home and keep an eye on key areas of concern, you can save yourself a lot of headaches, time, and money over the longer term. In addition, you can ensure your home remains a safe and comfortable place for you and your loved ones, and you can reduce hazards as well as maintain the aesthetic appeal of your property. In this article, we will look at some of the areas of your home you should check on a regular basis.

What Are the Areas of Concern?

The areas of concern at your home will depend on the type of property you live in. Below are some of the areas you should keep an eye on if you want to protect your property:

The Basement of the Property

Keeping an eye on the basement of the property is very important, as this is one area that can cause a lot of issues around your home. So, if you have a basement, make sure you check it regularly for any signs of damage or issues. Also, consider getting it waterproofed, as this will provide extra protection for your as well as the basement itself. By doing this, you can avoid basement-related issues such as the spread of mold, dampness throughout your home, pest problems, and bad odors.

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Crawl Space Under the Home

If you have a crawl space under your home, it is vital that you check regularly for any issues, and that you keep it clean and in good shape. If you neglect this space and let it fall into a bad state, it can cause many issues such as pest infestations, damage to the wooden supports of your home, and low air-quality in your property, to name but a few. Speak to an expert about getting it encapsulated for protection, and make sure any repairs are carried out in a timely manner.

Foundation Issues

One of the other things you have to check is the condition of the foundation, and the easiest way to do this is to look out for signs of foundation damage. This could include uneven floors stemming from sinking concrete, cracked walls and floors, movement in the walls causing bulging and bowing, and misalignment resulted in windows and doors getting jammed. If you feel there may be an issue, get in touch with an expert to do a proper assessment.

These are some of the areas of your home that you should keep a close eye on.

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The Hidden Dangers Of Not Taking Care Of Your Dental Health

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Good oral health is not just about having a pretty smile. Most people understand they should take care of their teeth so they don’t become chipped or decayed which would look terrible. However, there is a more important reason to make sure your teeth are in good health.

Oral health is totally linked to your overall health. In other words, if you have bad teeth, you are increasing the odds of having other health problems down the line. It may seem like a stretch of the imagination, but when your teeth are in bad shape, you can end up with a myriad of illnesses. These illnesses could really impact your quality of life and possibly worse. In this article, I will go over several of the things to keep in mind about your dental health so you can avoid other health problems later on.

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Cardiovascular disease

Our gums have a lot of small capillary veins very close to the surface. This is why taking oral medication under the tongue is so effective. The medication gets absorbed quickly into the blood which acts as a sort of high speed delivery system. This is great when you need quick relief from pain or other things, but bad news if you have a tooth infection. This infected tooth is full of bacteria which is easily brought into your circulatory system and can grow to be a major problem.

A blood infection can be very serious and cause heart problems. Over time, this bacteria can cause plaque to build up on the arteries which increases the chance of heart attack or stroke. If you have been putting off getting that toothache checked out, this is the time to make an appointment with smilovitsdds.com or whoever else is your local dentist. You shouldn’t wait until the problem gets worse.

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Diabetes

Diabetes is a growing concern all across the Western world. From a poor diet to a sedentary lifestyle, the number of people with diabetes is growing. We aren’t doing ourselves any favors by adding to the problem due to poor dental health.

Gum disease is easy to get when we aren’t taking good care of your teeth. And this leads to higher than normal sugar levels in the blood. Not only that, but infections are far more serious for people with diabetes than people without. It is very hard for the body to ward off infections.

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Pregnancy complications

Pregnancy can make it very difficult to take care of your teeth even when you do everything right. The changes in the body can take away a lot of the minerals and nutrients that your teeth need to stay healthy. As a result many pregnant women lose teeth. Gingivitis has been shown to be a cause of premature birth so the issue isn’t just a less than perfect smile. It can have serious side effects. Even low birth weight can sometimes be attributed to gum disease or tooth infections.

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Free Samples, Coupons and Sweeps

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YOU Don’t Know Me and YOU Don’t Know My Grief

As a YouTube creator, I am no stranger to the horrible trolls who have targeted me, even called a fake SWAT on me that could have had ended tragically and left me with PTSD.

When I lost my oldest son unexpectedly on May 6th of this year, it did not take long for the ugliest of trolls to attack. They are narcissistic individuals without empathy. They made jokes about my son and about my grief.

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Nothing was off limits for them. Even though attacking vulnerable individuals and bullying is against YouTube’s Terms of Service, they continued their disgusting attacks relentlessly. Those that participated on panels and in the live chats were no better. They obviously agreed with what was going on because they took no stand against it. You know what they say about birds that flock together.

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It seems my channel name gets them good views and they watch me obsessively, to the point of reiterating every detail, and then insanely saying they don’t watch. Their words come from a place of intense jealousy and reflect everything that is wrong with them. They talk about me being boring, monotone, ugly, abusive, money-hungry, a sociopath and other profanities. These are all adjectives that describe them to a T. They say I have no sense of humor and then try and copy the exact gags and fun stuff we do.

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Their jealousy stems from the fact that we have the best community on YouTube, filled with the most loving and caring people around. The Rambler community has held me up and loved me during the darkest hours of my life. We even created a grief group and a grief panel to help and support others.

Grief, especially grief from losing a child does not have a formula. Everyone experiences it differently. There is no right or wrong way to grieve the loss of your child. Yet, these so called experts, including those that don’t even have children, want to tell me how to grieve.

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One particularly elderly woman who labels herself a widow, went on a disgusting rant about me. I had never even heard of this woman when a video she made showed up in my YouTube feed because she used my channel name in her title.

This woman described herself as she was supposedly talking about me, saying I was boring, monotone, unattractive, had no sense of humor, dry lips and a Donald Trump mouth. She said I had crooked teeth (better call my orthodontist) and that they made my mouth hang wrong. She said that she could just see I had terrible breath. Everything she said described her. That is how it is with narcissists, they take everything that is wrong with them and project it onto others.

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Beyond that, she wanted to tell everyone that I never cared about my son. She said I should be curled up in a ball in the corner of my room. She said she never saw me shed a tear, that when I cried there were no tears. She said that I did not love my kids, never hugged them and was abusive to them and my husband.

She compared her grief from losing her husbands to my grief from losing my son. She has no right to assume the grief is anywhere near the same, because it is not. Losing a child is unnatural, and that is why their is no name unlike the name of widow or widower for a person who loses a spouse.

Don’t you dare judge me in my grief out of your dripping jealousy. How can you call me money-hungry when I have never asked for a dime from our community? Her and her other trolling friends seem to know every detail of my life, mention I have 2 homes etc. They are dripping with jealousy, as they are the ones who are the so called ebeggers. They use my name and the channel name to get views and it is obvious. How sad, they cannot get views on their own content.

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So for all you despicable trolls, leave me alone, don’t talk about my children, don’t talk about my life, leave me alone. Most especially don’t talk about my grief, because you don’t know anything about it.

All you see is what I choose to show you and nothing else. You and I have never met in person, I have never spoken to you on the phone or through email. You know nothing about me or what I am going through.

It is my hope that shining a light on this detrimental behavior will capture the attention of the people who can help me reach YouTube and hold them accountable to their TOS.

Behavior like this can cause vulnerable individuals to do something tragic to themselves. It is sick and twisted and against the law (cyber bullying, cyber stalking, harassment) as well as against YouTube’s own TOS.

Leave us all alone with your ignorant rants. I know you are sick of looking at yourself in the mirror and seeing all of your flaws. You feel better when you go on rants and project all your own insecurities and flaws onto others.

The reason you are not successful and need to put other creators in the title of your videos is because you attract everything you put out there. The only people who want to be with you are people who share that darkness and hate in their souls.

In closing, I want to thank the Mommy Ramblings Community for their continued support of me and my family. We have truly grown over the years and have become a loving family of our own.

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I do not know how I would have survived if it had not been for the love and support from all of you. We genuinely care and love each other, and that is the biggest thing these individuals are jealous of. They don’t have it, because they don’t know how to give true love and support to others. They try to pretend they love and care about people,  but it is phony. They are narcissists, sociopaths and even psychopaths who love only themselves and have no empathy for others.

In closing, I will say it again to these heartless bullies, LEAVE ME AND OUR COMMUNITY ALONE!!!

 

 


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That Call – The One That Changed My Life

It will be 7-weeks in a few hours that I got that life-changing call. The call that separated my life into the before and after. That call that made me a member in a club no one wants to be a member of. The call that forever changed our family, our dynamic, our existence and our faith. The call that gives me chills whenever I think of it. The call that made my body go into a state of numbness that scared me then, and scares me still. The call that no mother should ever get. The call that broke my heart. The call that shattered my world.

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In the past week, things hit me that I was totally numb for. I think back to the funeral home. When it was time to close the casket and prepare to go to church, I did not yell, scream or cry for them not to close it. Now, I have terror thinking of that. I am screaming in my mind now, don’t take him away, don’t close the casket. My beautiful boy, my baby, my son, don’t take him away.

Don’t deny me the opportunity to touch his hand, stroke his thick hair, kiss his face. Don’t deny me the chance to gaze on the dimple in his chin, don’t deny me the feeling of putting my hand over his. I should not have to do this. At times it haunts me as I try to remember the small café au lait spot on his leg or what his feet looked like.  I search for photos or my mind to remember. I should not have to do this. My son should be here. It is so unfair, so unjust.

The numbness lifts for minutes at a time, I can not handle more. I am thankful for that blanket of numbness that covers me and shields me from the unbearable pain.  Time goes on, it is a painful reminder of  the last time I heard my son tell me he loved me.  That was 7-weeks ago when he said that to me. I tell him every day how much I love him.

I will never stop loving him, never stop missing him, never stop looking for signs of him. I will never be ungrateful for all the signs he sends. The things he is making the Eagle and the cardinal do are nothing short of miraculous. I will never take them for granted. I pray he sends them to me.


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All The Unfinished Projects and Dreams

As I sit here trying to figure out how many boards we need to buy to replace those that are damaged in our deck, I find my mind wandering. I scan the website and end up looking at pavers which leads me to look at projects. So many projects I want to do. I had talked about them with Ray so many times. I told him about helping me with a walkway, going into our woods and collecting stones, putting a pond in and so much more.

When I walk around, I see so many trees that need to come down, and my mind immediately thinks I will just call Ray. Then, I find myself so upset that he is not here. I see these projects and I know that the chances of me getting them done are slim now. We have lived here many years. Our oldest three children were grown and out of the home before I ever got to most of the projects I planned to do when they were younger.

Now, my little ones are growing up fast. I know all too well how short life is. I know time is running out for all of us. I find myself wondering how others seem to get everything done. I feel like I am destined to pass with thousands of unfinished dreams and projects. In fact, I know because of my son’s death, I will 100% pass away leaving thousands of unfinished dreams.

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I think of how Ray would have been quite the weekend warrior. I know he would have done tons of landscaping projects when he became a home owner. I know that every time we would visit, we would see another enhancement, and he would tell us he learned how to do it all on YouTube. Ponds, walls, walkways, gardens and so much more would be constructed. I can see his wife telling me all about his latest project. I can see his kids playing on the play-structure he built for them.

I am mourning not only Ray’s loss but the loss of all those dreams. His dreams, my dreams, I can barely comprehend he will not experience any of that. Every project I want to do, I think of how he would have helped me and how we planed to make videos about it.

Jimi is just not enthusiastic about projects and that is how it has been for many years. Ray used to share my enthusiasm and now he is gone. It is things like this that snap me out of the fog I have been in since that phone call. I remember feeling this after my mother passed when I thought about how much she loved summer and the things she wanted to do in her home. The light fixtures she purchased that she never saw installed. The new stove she had delivered just 6 weeks before she passed unexpectedly.

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I console myself by telling myself that they are experiencing something so much better now that we cannot understand. It is for those left behind that are faced with the sorrow of unfinished dreams. Before Ray’s death I would fret about all the unfinished projects. I would berate myself that I did not tackle even 1/4 of the projects I thought I would before our oldest 3 would leave home.

I know my time with my 2 little ones is moving fast, I know I had to get a move on with the projects. Now, I am trying to complete things. I am trying to concentrate on what matters. I still cannot help but mourn all those dreams I had for Ray, for us, for his future. I feel cheated in knowing he was cheated. I wonder if he feels cheated or if he has something so much more now. I pray it is the later.

I had a great experience with the bald eagle yesterday. It was incredible and very close. I heard a huge boulder type splash. I thought my neighbor threw something or fell in the water. As I walked to the opening of the lake, I saw the bald eagle swoop down, fly a short distance then turn around and come back my way. It landed in a tree right in front of me. He stayed there for a while, even though at that moment, several other neighbors were walking by. After a while the eagle took off and went to the side of the lake and landed in a pine tree. It was spectacular. I really believe Ray put his energy in that Eagle to give me a sign. Those signs lift me up when I am having a bad day.

Yesterday was a very bad day. The Eagle helped me. I pray Ray gives me more signs. I need them so much. I hope he knows that. I miss him more than I can ever express. I am forever broken because of the love we shared and his absence in my life. I try to stay busy. I plan to tackle projects I have put off. As I think about the projects, I think about Ray. It is a cycle that keeps repeating. It is just like the unending grief we face when we lose a child.


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It Does Not Get Easier

It has been 4 weeks and 2 days since that terrible call. It does not get easier. Yes, I can laugh. Yes, I can love. Yes, I can find joy. However, there is still a numbness that protects me from the overwhelming sadness and brokenness of losing my oldest son. It comes in waves and I never know when the waves of raw grief will hit. They may be triggered by a conversation or seeing something he loved. I never know, all I know is my journey through this life without him, has only just begun.

I have been reading many books about the unbearable grief of losing a child. Parents who have gone through this unbearable loss describe so much of what I am feeling. There is a kinship in connecting with those parents. In them, we see that God did not punish us by taking our child. We see they are great people, with great families. This horrid loss does not discriminate. It happens to parents from all walks of life and we never know when or if it will happen to us, until it does.

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I never wanted to be in this club, but those other members are my greatest comfort. How can someone with an intact family truly console me? Please don’t misconstrue what I am saying. I am not saying, not to console someone who has lost a child because you have not. I am saying, there are things you should never say.

Don’t ever say you know how we feel because you have lost your mother or father or anyone other than your child. There is no word for the parent who has lost a child, because IT IS NOT NATURAL, it is not supposed to happen. I have lost my mother and father and I grieve them still, but the death of our parents is something expected. Our parents are supposed to pass on before us. Our children are not supposed to pass before us. You can never know the way it feels unless you have experienced it.

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Instead, be a friend, bring a meal, offer a hand to hold, a shoulder to cry on. Ask the person what they need. If they want to talk about their child, let them. If they want to talk about everything else, let them. If there are other children in the family, do something nice for them. They are seeing their parents in unbearable pain. The have lost their sibling. Their world is shattered too.

Don’t ever tell someone that has lost a child that they are laughing too soon or not soon enough. Don’t assume because someone is not walking around weeping, that they are okay. Trust me, they are not okay. Be mindful, don’t say you had the worst day of your life because you spilled coffee on your shirt. You don’t know about the worst day of your life, unless you have lost your child. A stained blouse can be replaced, you cannot replace your child.

Understand that a person who has lost a child may grow angry and lash out. They are struggling with the deepest hurt and pain. These emotions may rise up and need to be directed at something. Let them get it out, let them vent. Try not to get angry, but be more understanding of where it stems from.  If they tell you that they screamed in their car alone, don’t say they should not do that or that it could have hurt someone else. I know how hurtful that is, because someone said it to me.

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In one of my grief books, parents remembered how they screamed in the car and in the shower. Don’t tell me or any other grieving parent what we should or should not be doing. You have no idea unless it happens to you, and pray it doesn’t. I can tell you, you will probably be screaming in the car and shower if it does. Stop with your judgement. You do not know the broken heart of someone that has lost a child unless you have. There but for the grace of God go you. Be thankful, not judgmental.

Remember, no one knows what the next moment brings better than someone who has lost a child. We were all like you. In one moment, our lives changed forever. We will never be normal, nothing will ever be alright every again. We are changed, and our lives are changed forever. A hole in our heart will NEVER HEAL. Our lives will be measured by before and after our loss. Never take one moment for granted, because in one second you could be the newest member of this club. We were not born members.

The members of this club seem to bond almost instantly. The thing we share in common is so great, we know the pain and that fosters the connection between us. We validate each other’s feelings. We know what is like to be angry at God. We know what it is like to feel like we do not want to go on without our child. We understand we will grieve forever for the dreams that died with our child. We know how hard it is to see our child’s friends reach milestones that our child will not. We know what it feels like when someone says something that hurts us. We know what it feels like to know we will grieve this loss forever. We understand our grief is something will will manage, but it will be with us until the end of our days. We know what it feels like to be changed forever. We know what it is like to be a grieving parent.

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We also regale each other with stories of dreams, signs and other things that tell us our child is still here, still with us. We need to believe and have faith we will see our child again. We need to hear the stories of others who have had profound, undeniable signs of their child’s presence. It is what we seek the most in my opinion. It brings me comfort more than anything else.

It does not get easier. Some days are harder than others. We never know when the waves of raw grief will hit. Even if we have a good day, it does not mean tomorrow will not be bad. It will never get easier. We know that, you need to know that.

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