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Blessings of Unity For a Happier Marriage #Giveaway #AllForJesus #FlyBy

Did you know that 50-60% of all Christian marriages end in divorce? In his book, The Blessings of Unity, Richard Case who with his wife Linda has been doing marriage retreats for over 14 years, found only a few of those marriages that have not moved to divorce are truly reflecting the wonder and glory of God. The remainder are living in mediocrity, ongoing conflict and certainly not enjoying the beauty of marriage.

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Richard says that while we may be initially attracted to our spouse because of how different their personality is to ours, it is those differences that cause conflict. The husband tries to get his wife to be more like him while the wife does the same with her husband. These attempts to change the other person lead to significant conflict.

Richard and his wife Linda learned from their own marriage troubles that something was not right. They then learned the 2 keys to a successful marriage were :

  1. Be abiding in the Vine and walking in the Spirit. (John 15: 1-15)
  2. Learning the concept of unity–we are to live and only live through the principle of unity. This means working toward reaching agreement on all decisions, all issues and all things of our lives 100 percent of the time, all the time. (Psalm 133)

Next, there is a written exercise for husbands and wives to evaluate their marriage.

Chapter 2 is all about the opposite of unity-division and discord. This is a great chapter filled with concepts, scripture and personal examples from the author’s marriage.

Now you may be thinking, this is crazy, my spouse and I cannot agree on everything. I admit, I had the same thought. The author does not think that is possible either and says it is okay to disagree. In fact it is important for each of us to hold integrity with our true thoughts, beliefs and insights. The important thing is they don’t let it ruin their night or weekend, instead they get to unity by seeking God’s will.

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There is also a chapter dedicated to handling disagreements and differences in opinion.

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I think this is important and I think the whole concept can help us give up the fight to be right and seek peace and pray for God’s will instead. Who does not want more peace in their life?

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Enter our giveaway below for a chance to win your own copy of The Blessings of Unity. In the meantime check out this free eBook, Unshakeable, from the All for Jesus Ministry.

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Spice It Up In December With The 12 Days of Passion

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As we head straight into the “Most Wonderful Time of the Year” it can often feel like the most stressful time of the year. Most of us already lead incredibly busy lives so throwing the holidays and all the expectations they bring on our already overflowing plate can seem like a recipe for disaster. I think stress is something most would say definitely rises during the holiday season.

 

The holidays seem to exacerbate so many issues for couples like family tensions, finances, and not having time together. This can all lead to arguments and hurt feelings. I think it is best to get an action plan and go on the offense before we make the most wonderful time of the year feel like the most horrible time of the year.

 

Couples tend to put their relationships on the back burner this time of year. It is so important to remember that you and your partner need to make time for each other. You might think that while that sounds nice it’s just not possible when you have so much to do.  You can barely get through each day as it is and you only sleep 4-5 hours.

Well, time to make a plan. Everyone has the same 24 hours. Your relationship matters and fighting and arguing can zap your energy. So make some small changes and see how you feel.  Commit to 12 days of passion with your partner this holiday season.

Sit down with your partner over dinner or coffee and dessert and get out your calendars. Calendar in 12 special times for you and him alone. They don’t have to be elaborate and they don’t have to cost a lot of money either. Just get out your calendars and take a look at some of the suggestions below and you can add your own.

  1. Notes of Passion– Pick a day and agree to leave each other passionate notes throughout the day. Of course you can include texts, but mix it up. It would be fun to stick a note for him to find in his briefcase or coat pocket as well. Speak from the heart and let your partner know why you are thankful he is your soulmate. Just doing this throughout the day can brighten both your spirits and make you feel adored.

2. Unplugged Game Nightfor just the two of you- Family game nights are nice, but this is just for you and your partner. Pick a favorite game and spend the time together when the kids are in bed to play together. You can make a favorite dessert, hot cider or cocoa to serve while you play and extra points  for playing in front of a cozy fire.

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3. Dinner and a Movie– Always a great one, and it does not mean going out. Chances are you have a DVD you still have not had the time to watch and cooking even the simplest dinner together can be fun. Don’t make it hard, even homemade pizza with your favorite toppings works. Heck, even frozen pizza will work, it is about the two of you spending quality time together. It does not have to be expensive or mean slaving over a hot stove all day. Use fun printables and of course some movie theater candy and popcorn containers make it super fun!

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4. Couples Massage– I was in Walmart recently and I saw K-Y® TOUCH®. K-Y® TOUCH® is a product that is a 2 in 1 Massage Creme and Pleasure Gel that can be found down the Family Planning aisle. What better way to work out that stress than from a loving massage from your life partner? This cream feels like soft cashmere and creates a feeling like warm cashmere wherever you massage it into. It is touch activated and will have you slowing down together to enjoy the splendor of the feelings it evokes as you lovingly massage one another. Trust me you will not need board games after this to pass your time.

5. Couples PlaylistYou and your partner each put together 6 songs that remind you of each other, your relationship or the love you share. Then get together and listen to them. It is amazing the feelings that music can stir up.

6.How Do I Love TheeWrite down 6 things about your partner that you love and cherish and then read them aloud to each other. Too many times we don’t feel appreciated or adored. This will give you the time not to remind each other of your shortcomings as we so often do in our day to day lives but to celebrate what you love about each other.

7.Make Something Special For Each Other– Don’t worry if you are not crafty, it could be a coupon book for special things, a poem, a song if you are musically gifted, etc. Just make something from your heart and share an early gift with the one you love.

8. Take A Walk TogetherEven a short one holding hands and unplugged. Just spend some time in nature and with each other, you will be surprised how good you feel when you take the time to connect with nature and each other.

9. Sweets For Your SweetheartPick out a special dessert recipe you have never made and make it together. Taking the time to find something you both think is pure decadence and then making it together may turn out just as sweet as the end result.

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10. Share A Favorite Holiday Movie TogetherPick a holiday classic you both love and watch it together. Add cocoa and cookies for extra points.

11. Help Each Other– Help your partner with one of the chores they need to do. Maybe he helps you to wrap presents or you help him paint the guest room.  Just pick something that either of you would normally do alone and help the other with it. An extra set of hands makes the load lighter and brings you together doing something that is necessary.

12. Sit Back And Just TalkMaybe in front of the tree in the quiet evening over some coffee or cocoa, take the time to just talk about what is on your mind. This is a time to connect with conversation and really communicate. You never know what you might learn or where it might lead.

Do you have any special ways that you want to share about how you keep your relationship paramount during the holiday season? If so, please share in the comments, I would love to read your ideas.

 


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Don’t Lose Your Freedom To Be Spontaneous!!! #TheMoodStrikes

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One of the best things about being a blogger, is being  able to help someone.  Maybe I will help them discover the perfect stroller or kitchen gadget but sometimes there’s an opportunity to be a mouthpiece for issues that are hard to talk about.  When we skirt topics because they feel awkward, it can lead to the perception that something is not common or  experienced by others.  Having the courage to tackle  sensitive or intimate topics  allows others to learn they are not alone.  When I can take it one step further and share something that can help, it really outweighs any embarrassment or uncomfortable feelings..

Intimacy in marriage is such a vital part of the relationship, but did you know some women experience vaginal dryness due to menopause, childbirth, breastfeeding, medical treatments, prescription medication and other issues that makes intimacy painful.  In menopause it’s caused by the decrease in estrogen and 1 in 3 women will experience it during or leading up to that time. Whether caused by menopause or any of the other issues, vaginal dryness can cause women to lose the freedom to be spontaneous and cause painful relations with their spouse or significant other .

When women are menopause age they often have older kids or their kids have left home.  WIthout having  to tip toe around kids they have the ability to be more spontaneous and adventurous.  So, it’s sad that a condition like vaginal dryness would throw a wet blanket on that for them. For other times women experience vaginal dryness like after a baby or while nursing it really stinks because they may have time for a super quickie in between the baby’s cat naps and have to take a rain check due to drought conditions.  It may sound like nothing, but it can cause pain, itching, irritation and burning.  Those are not the kind of feelings you are looking to stir up during intimacy.

There is something that may help women with this issue.  K-Y® Liquibeads supplement the body’s natural lubrication giving women the confidence to be spontaneous with their spouse any time the mood strikes. the K-Y® Liquibeads are less messy than traditional lubricants and they are more natural.  I feel good knowing that there is a simple, non-messy solution that will help act like my body’s own natural moisture. I don’t know about you but I like to keep things fresh and fun in my marriage.  Who doesn’t like a little spice right, turn the heat up a  bit and mix it  up.  I recently saw K-Y® Liquibeads on the shelf at Walmart and decided to pick up a box to learn more.

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The box of K-Y® Liquibeads comes with 6 blister packed beads and 6 one time use applicators.  The OVULE looks like a bead and feels striking similar to a bath bead.

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The applicators are slim and easy to use, just place a bead in the top and then insert the applicator same way you would a tampon. It is easy to incorporate them into your routine, just like taking a shower or putting on your makeup. The beads dissolve in about 15 minutes and provide all day and night moisture. One bead will relieve vaginal dryness for 3-4 days. Now women won’t be worrying about pain or dryness when the mood strikes and can take advantage of the moment wherever they are.

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If you are pregnant or nursing be sure and check with your doctor before using this product. So, we made it and we are all still here right?  Are you still here?  I hope so, the more we talk about it, the sooner women will understand vaginal dryness can occur at some point in their lives. Most important they will  learn,K-Y® Liquibeads can help them from losing their freedom to be spontaneous. For more information visit K-Y.com.  Right now you can get a coupon for $1 off any K-Y® products at coupons.com. If you want to share your experience to help women with this issue, please do so in the comment section.


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Win a MoonPie/ First Things First Prize Pack!!! #FirstThingsFirst

Summer is all about spending time and making great memories with the people you love.  With all that together time it’s so important to make sure that we’re spending some time to strengthen those relationships.  First Things First (FTF) is an award-winning not-for-profit organization in Chattanooga, Tennessee dedicated to strengthening families.

We were sent 5 FTF videos to view and pick our favorite from.  I viewed the videos and my favorite was; Save Your Marriage.  The reason I liked it best was because it can seem that in today’s world, divorce is the first solution to many experiencing a difficult time in their marriage.

I think many so-called experts even jump there.  Don’t believe me?  Try googling almost anything situation that could occur in a marriage during a difficult time or argument and you will see the results.  Most will be to leave your spouse, kick them to the curb etc. Then people who do that instead of at least trying to work things out find that usually the same issues play out again, just in a different relationship.

FTF is a resource that collaborates with and is supported by a broad cross-section of community organizations, groups and individuals. FTF accomplishes it mission through meaningful media messaging and skill building classes.

Did you know:

• 24 million children are growing up in homes without their biological fathers.

• Only 30% of divorces are due to infidelity, addiction or abuse, 70% of divorces are due to couples feeling disconnected.

• Couples who manage to devote time specifically to one another at least once a week are markedly more likely to enjoy high-quality relationships and lower divorce rates, compared to couples who do not devote as much couple time to one another.

• Fathers provide unique benefits to their daughters through their active and positive presence from the time of birth all the way through adulthood.

If you would like to view the other videos, you can click on the links below:

Lost In Translation

Daddy/Daughter Relationships

Dad’s Way

Date Your Spouse

Would you like to win a MoonPie/ First Things First Prize Pack?  If so enter to win using the Rafflecopter widget below.  Good Luck!!!

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MoonPie/ First Things First Prize Pack Includes:

MoonPie / First Things First Family Prize Pack includes:
– His and Hers MoonPie T-shirts (2 Large T-shirts)
– 2 Boxes of MoonPies

 

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